The Opportunity Available to Us in Times of Transition

Surrender to the flow of your own process.

Something that can happen as we move through transitions and toward new versions of ourselves and our lives is that we may observe delays in the readiness of the new life phase we’re stepping into. This can look like unexpected roadblocks, waiting for contracts or paperwork to clear, waiting for communication or clarification from other people involved in the transition, repeated delays, what seems like random and unexplained interferences, and more. 

When we witness this happening in our experience, it is an opportunity to check in with ourselves exactly where we are, to check in with the circumstances we find ourselves in, the circumstances we are planning to leave behind, and to ask ourselves: Is there anything unresolved here? Is there any ambivalence present within me? Am I holding on to ideas, beliefs, hurts, versions of myself that have already metaphorically died?

Often times, we have prepared ourselves for what’s to come, for where we want to go. We’ve talked ourselves into knowing that this time of death, transition, or rebirth is serving our highest good. We’ve understood our assignment and what will be asked of us in order to participate in our own expansion. And yet, we haven’t actually put down the baggage we no longer need. We haven’t released the items, beliefs, and attachments that have served their purpose and do not have a place in our next phase. It’s akin to having surrendered to the many ego deaths we experience when we choose authenticity, but still carrying the figurative bodies on our shoulders.

In order to embody each next phase of expansion, we must be willing to release what no longer serves us and step over the threshold with our hearts vulnerable and arms open to receive the new.

The places where we’re still holding onto things that have passed can be sneaky and elusive. A lump in the throat. A quickened heartbeat. A hardness in the belly. If we’re not attuned to the language of the soma and equipped with the courageous willingness to listen, we can miss this subtle communication.

We are blessed with the generosity of the external reflection. As within, so without. Where there is a lack of clarity within, we will find resistance without. Call in compassion and non-judgment and take an honest look.

If you sense the presence of ambivalence within your Being or observe resistance in your external experience, here are a few things you can do for exploration and self-support:

• Go within, through reflection or journaling, and ask yourself:

  • What am I resisting?

  • Show me where there is ambivalence.

  • Who or what needs attention within me?

• Acknowledge the role of any others in the experience or transition that there may be resistance around.

  • Write a letter to each of these people saying everything you want to express, unfiltered. Give your body the experience of transparent communication. You can bury, burn, or keep the letter, whatever feels true for you.

• When you’ve identified the source(s) of resistance or ambivalence within you, have a radically honest conversation with yourself. In this conversation, name what you truly want. Take the deepest breath you can muster and say, allowed or internally:

  • Thank you for (past experience you’re letting go of).

  • I release (this experience) with love and gratitude.

  • I trust and support myself through this transition.

Walk yourself into the next phase of your ever-unfolding journey.